Comments on: Setting Something (or Someone) Free – Part II https://myboyfriendlivesinkenya.com/?p=226 Musings on a long-distance relationship Sat, 29 Mar 2014 04:11:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Felix Reyes https://myboyfriendlivesinkenya.com/?p=226&cpage=1#comment-388 Felix Reyes Sun, 12 Jun 2011 04:41:20 +0000 http://myboyfriendlivesinkenya.com/?p=226#comment-388 I am going through a similar experience. My beautiful woman & love of my life just left with the Peace Corps for Moldova, Eastern Europe. We are in a very committed relationship & prepared for this experience months before she left! We talked a lot about our love for each other & how it will be so important to be stable and remain supportive in the process! My woman told me on the first day we met that she had signed up to go overseas with the peace corps. I found it very attractive that she was someone who thought of helping others around the world! Despite knowing that she would leave, we went ahead & pursued a relationship! We got to know each other so much, talked about our deepest dreams and goals in life as well as the biggest fears we had! We connected so much that we were able to develop much confidence about being separate! We love each other so much, have the suPort of our families and i plan on coming to see her in Moldova about every six months! We plan for me to come see her in December of this year! Before my woman left, I gave her the biggest gift and demonstration love: I proposed to her and of course she said yes! It was very hard to see her go five days ago! Although she doesn't have easy access to internet, we have already spoken twice this week! I know this isn't going to be easy for us! We may even have our moments of fear, but we know we'll eventually adjust to this change and will grow as a couple and as separate human beings during this time. The communication aspect MUST be crucial for us! I know things will get better with time as we plan on talking on the phone, using skype, email, facebook, etc. My fiance and I told each other that there is NOTHING ornobody that can come between us! WE are the choicemakers, the ones who decide the course of our relationship and we have made that solid commitment to get married and begin our new life together when she returns from Europe! I'm very proud of her and I know this can only be a good thing! Yes, I will admit, I feel lonely and sad because she just left, but I know this can be a good thing and as along as you make that serious commitment to one another nothing can stand in your way! Good luck to all those couple who are going through similar experiences! I am going through a similar experience. My beautiful woman & love of my life just left with the Peace Corps for Moldova, Eastern Europe. We are in a very committed relationship & prepared for this experience months before she left! We talked a lot about our love for each other & how it will be so important to be stable and remain supportive in the process! My woman told me on the first day we met that she had signed up to go overseas with the peace corps. I found it very attractive that she was someone who thought of helping others around the world! Despite knowing that she would leave, we went ahead & pursued a relationship! We got to know each other so much, talked about our deepest dreams and goals in life as well as the biggest fears we had! We connected so much that we were able to develop much confidence about being separate! We love each other so much, have the suPort of our families and i plan on coming to see her in Moldova about every six months! We plan for me to come see her in December of this year!

Before my woman left, I gave her the biggest gift and demonstration love: I proposed to her and of course she said yes! It was very hard to see her go five days ago! Although she doesn’t have easy access to internet, we have already spoken twice this week! I know this isn’t going to be easy for us! We may even have our moments of fear, but we know we’ll eventually adjust to this change and will grow as a couple and as separate human beings during this time. The communication aspect MUST be crucial for us! I know things will get better with time as we plan on talking on the phone, using skype, email, facebook, etc. My fiance and I told each other that there is NOTHING ornobody that can come between us! WE are the choicemakers, the ones who decide the course of our relationship and we have made that solid commitment to get married and begin our new life together when she returns from Europe! I’m very proud of her and I know this can only be a good thing! Yes, I will admit, I feel lonely and sad because she just left, but I know this can be a good thing and as along as you make that serious commitment to one another nothing can stand in your way! Good luck to all those couple who are going through similar experiences!

]]> By: M https://myboyfriendlivesinkenya.com/?p=226&cpage=1#comment-292 M Mon, 23 May 2011 17:16:43 +0000 http://myboyfriendlivesinkenya.com/?p=226#comment-292 I just discovered this blog over the weekend and it made me smile. Like this other person that wrote in, I too fell in love with someone who is about to go off on a 2 year Peace Corps term. My guy is going to Mozambique. I just discovered this blog over the weekend and it made me smile. Like this other person that wrote in, I too fell in love with someone who is about to go off on a 2 year Peace Corps term. My guy is going to Mozambique.

]]> By: admin https://myboyfriendlivesinkenya.com/?p=226&cpage=1#comment-289 admin Thu, 19 May 2011 23:19:55 +0000 http://myboyfriendlivesinkenya.com/?p=226#comment-289 Marissa, Thanks so much for the feedback. Hope the site helps. Yes, we were told the same thing that there was basically a 0% chance of surviving the PC as a long-distance couple. Honestly, we were the only ones. There were a couple couples where they were even engaged before they left-both of the guys in each of the couples was in the PC and the girls were back at home. Ultimately, both of them broke up and the guys found local girls--one of them actually married a local Kenyan girl, and the other guy extended his PC service so he could spend more time with his new Kenyan girlfriend. I'll say it again, communicate daily and visit often. No matter how strong of a couple you are, it is incredibly vital to be present in each other's daily lives. Marissa, Thanks so much for the feedback. Hope the site helps. Yes, we were told the same thing that there was basically a 0% chance of surviving the PC as a long-distance couple. Honestly, we were the only ones. There were a couple couples where they were even engaged before they left-both of the guys in each of the couples was in the PC and the girls were back at home. Ultimately, both of them broke up and the guys found local girls–one of them actually married a local Kenyan girl, and the other guy extended his PC service so he could spend more time with his new Kenyan girlfriend.

I’ll say it again, communicate daily and visit often. No matter how strong of a couple you are, it is incredibly vital to be present in each other’s daily lives.

]]> By: marissa https://myboyfriendlivesinkenya.com/?p=226&cpage=1#comment-287 marissa Wed, 18 May 2011 19:20:47 +0000 http://myboyfriendlivesinkenya.com/?p=226#comment-287 Wow, I can tell that this blog is going to be very helpful and encouraging for me. Thank you so much for taking the time to thoughtfully write about your experiences with keeping a long-distance Peace Corps relationship going. My boyfriend just left about a month ago to teach English in the Republic of Georgia; we have been together 9 months and were friends for a year before we started dating. We lived together for 7 months before he left, so we are very committed to staying together through this time, but that just makes being apart even more difficult. I know it's not impossible, though! I have more than a strong feeling we are going to prove wrong the Peace Corps supervisor who told my bf, "Don't be surprised if you go home with a Russian wife." Sorry, ain't gonna happen! Wow, I can tell that this blog is going to be very helpful and encouraging for me. Thank you so much for taking the time to thoughtfully write about your experiences with keeping a long-distance Peace Corps relationship going. My boyfriend just left about a month ago to teach English in the Republic of Georgia; we have been together 9 months and were friends for a year before we started dating. We lived together for 7 months before he left, so we are very committed to staying together through this time, but that just makes being apart even more difficult. I know it’s not impossible, though! I have more than a strong feeling we are going to prove wrong the Peace Corps supervisor who told my bf, “Don’t be surprised if you go home with a Russian wife.” Sorry, ain’t gonna happen!

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